I remember reading something years ago by Esther and Jerry Hicks (The Teachings of Abraham) that left me with the impression that my ONLY job is to make sure that I feel good. I have been searching for the exact quote and find many, but not that exactly, so maybe it’s what my mind morphed the information into. I have been thinking about this a lot lately. If our only job is to feel good, why do so many people feel so badly?
I did find this quote by them which I would like to share here:
“The discipline that we would like you to exercise is that you make a decision that nothing is more important than that you feel good, and that you are going to find thoughts that feel better.”
I also read something else by them that said essentially everything we are doing all of the time is done in order to feel happier somehow and why don’t we just take a short cut and just be happy now? I like that!
I have been reminded a whole lot lately by what has been happening in my life and my friend’s lives that you never know what is going on with someone else. It has been made all the more clear to me that people’s exteriors do not always match their interior. Wouldn’t it be a dream come true if all those who are struggling internally would feel safe and okay to talk about their struggles openly? We all have them. We all have times throughout our lives when things just do not seem okay. The expectation to be perfect is put upon so many lovely souls, usually puy there by themselves. It would be amazing to exchange that expectation for the expectation of experiencing joy and feeling good. What we focus on expands, we just have to trust it.
I have learned to ask myself a simple question- Is everything okay right now? And it usually is right now. What I am worried about it usually about something in the future that never does happen or used to be things from the past that I was second guessing. (see my January 2014 blog post)
I have learned what to do to keep myself feeling good and it works almost ALL of the time. Simple habits I have built over time that I can take action on day in and day out. It works. Things like prayer, meditation, exercise, being outside, reading, listening to music, writing and planning. These work for me. They work if I work them- which I do daily. It’s hard work. I don’t always feel like it, but I MAKE myself do these things. These things that I LOVE to do- isn’t it funny that I have to make myself do them sometimes?
It is human nature that when we need it most, the things we most need to do to help ourselves are the hardest to do. That’s why you need to make a pact with yourself on a good day that when you don’t feel like it, you are going to MAKE yourself follow through.
So what are your things? What will you put into your daily foundation. If you buy into the premise that your main job is to feel good, what are you going to start doing daily to manifest that? What things are robbing you of feeling good that you will stop doing? Write it down. Make a plan. Tell a trusted friend. Find people, friends, places you can go where everyone is being real and will support you, each other. Make this your intention and the circumstances will show up.
Remember it is hard work. Yes, some people naturally have a happier set point than others, but for everyone, we are living in a world where we are bombarded with negative, bad news, and the like. We have to work very hard to combat that input by what we will allow to enter our brains, our eyes, our ears. We have to be putting more good in than bad that is getting in and we can feel pretty darn good, as my mother in law likes to say.
Please share your thoughts, your ideas, what works for you, etc. Let’s have a conversation here.