The 100 Day Challenge, Day 68:

Charisma: a personal magnetism that enables an individual to attract or influence people.
Charm: a power of pleasing or attracting, as through personality or beauty.

When was the last time you thought about those words? How do they apply to you and your life? I have written the dictionary definitions above, but what do these words mean to you personally?

Personal attractiveness has A LOT to do with how effective you are in life and business. Charm and Charisma are central to your level of personal attractiveness.

Yes, it has something to do with how you look, but it has much more to do with who you are, the energy you have and show, your attitude- really how you show up in the world.

One of the most important parts of personal attractiveness is authenticity. For instance- Do you like people? If you do, they will feel that about you right away. If you really aren’t that excited about others- they will know that, too, even if you think you are a great actor- your energy, authenticity, speaks louder than words.

Are you the kind of person others want to be around? I was on a conference call yesterday with a great business coach, Daniel Harkavay, and he made the point again that if you are going to anything worth doing, you are going to need a team around you- you have to realize that everyone has merit and everyone has a story (that is important to them).

Are you the kind of person YOU would want to be around? Take a good look. What are the reasons people would follow you? Why would they decide to buy into your mission, join you in a project, do business with you, or support you in some way? How do others benefit from being around you and from working with you? Does your style repel people or draw them in?

These questions and thoughts are especially crucial if you are leader- which really we know we all are. (read yesterday’s blog post).

Be the kind of person that people want to be around and you will have people around and plenty of chances to connect with and collaborate with others.

So I ask you- are you charming?