This past weekend I had an important mental breakthrough on something I had been trying to force for many months, too. The breakthrough came when I finally started to consider alternatives to my challenge- what else might work- instead of what I was trying to force, which clearly wasn’t working.
Sometimes we can get so narrowly focused on what the right thing is and how we do things. In this case it was about how I had run my mornings for almost thirty years (watch this week’s video in my newsletter to hear the details on this) and it is no longer working for reasons beyond my control. BUT I WAS STILL TRYING TO CONTROL THEM ANYWAY!
I was reminded that when letting go of forcing something, you can find ease and energy. How else might I do this? My favorite question of all time: what opportunities does this challenge present? As you do so, you will begin to notice your creativity kicking in.
Forcing takes a lot of energy– and in this case, was actually hurting my body!
My coaching questions for you this week are:
Where in your life are you trying to force something to happen, force someone to do something they don’t want to do, force yourself to do something you don’t want to do or isn’t good for you?
You’ve heard of trying to put the square peg in the round hole- or vice versa- where are you doing that?
What are your reasons for these things- write them down?
Do they make sense and are they working?
What is one thing you could let go of forcing to see what else might be possible for you?
What might you learn from this?
What might you gain from this?
What might you be giving up?
I challenge you to truly dig into this today- with pen and paper. I would love to hear what revelations you have and what commitments you create!